Cheating boyfriend = unbearable pain

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Hello wiltur,

You will get some very sound advice from the people here and although i am falling asleep wanted to say a few words because i was moved from your story and later maybe will write more.

It is understandable to feel hurt , cheating is cheating, when you give a promise should be able to keep it. However a random cheating would have cause me pain too but this alone would not be a reason for me to break up with my bf. What would be a reason to let him go is if he said 'so , not a big deal man , chill!' and no regrets. There are those too you know and just is to show they don't feel much about their bf or they don't know the consequences of their actions. Your boyfriend seems is not one of those people.

I was -and still am- shattered. This is the greatest pain he could cause me, and although he knew this and always advocated with me that random sex is something he would never do, he did what he did.

the trust you had at him has been damaged and is normal. Think though, people are people have weaknesses and learn new things form their experiences and mistakes and that is what he did and that is what you both are doing now...Learning from this experience.
The fact that he told you besides it shows he regrets for cheating also means he is open to communicate with you which is great. This is something good that came from this, use it to your advantage and make your relationship solid. Relationships are about communication and then trust. If you you can forgive each others mistakes and not take any hurt then nothing can break you apart.