Cheating boyfriend = unbearable pain

[Wiltur]

Marshlander, again thanks for all the kind words and wise thoughts.

And thanks for sharing your personal experience with me .. this Albert seems a very worthy person indeed. It made me so glad to read you writing about him, and about your relationship and how you overcame distance and how with trust you made your story a better place for two

About my bfriend .. I'll try and see things from his perspective as much as I can .. I was really striken but what you said

for example, his escapades were motivated to some degree by the need to find out whether for him being a top was important enough before taking the risk of asking you to do something he felt would make you uncomfortable?

From what he keeps telling me, it might as well be true if I am to believe him ... I need to regain trust in him, and I must say now I'm much more positive about how to take things forward - and I'm positive that things can be taken forward, which I couldn't say just a few days ago. I love him deeply, and I know that's the best place from where to start our dialogue.

Thanks again