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07-23-2014, 05:09 PM

50Plus Wrote:Advice: do not ever have a regret in life. I am reminded what my first boss said: I only regret what I have not done.

You love your girlfriend and want to marry her. You really like this guy and want to date him.

On the surface they appear to be opposite desires. But are they really? Some questions:

Do you only want him for what she cannot bring to your relationship? [COLOR="DarkOrange"]Yes, and the more time I spend with her the more being with him makes sense....
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Do you only want her because that is what society has deemed as 'normal'?[COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"] I want her because she is perfect, honestly, by any guys standards, everything about this girl is perfect! So if i can find the perfect girl and still not be happy.....atleast now I know why I'm not happy.[/COLOR]

Have you talked with her about your feelings for guys? [COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]She had asked once if I had ever been wit a guy during a lewd discussion around 3 somes and I said no, but that's the truth, this guy is my first, he was my first everything.... what if this is why I have such an emotional attachment to him..?[/COLOR]

Have you talked with yourself about whether you are gay? [COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]nope and I've tried, I'v done a porn test and thought things were really hot recently, before that I've always admired guys bodies and caught myself checking out asses,[/COLOR]

How long have you been with her? [COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]2.5 years[/COLOR]

How long have you been with him? [COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]7/8 dates spread out over 2 months[/COLOR]

Can you still be friends with her, if you are with him? [COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]Only if I lie to her could I convince her to do this i thnk, I'm not sure how she would take it.[/COLOR]

Can you be friends with him, if you are with her? [COLOR="rgb(255, 140, 0)"]Isn't that unfair on him? He might be open to it
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Have you considered an open relationship where you get to have her and him? You described two types of relationships (him OR her), there is at least a third type (him AND her) and likely more.

No one will be able to tell you what to do. It is your life. But ask the questions of yourself and of those who are special in your life.

My answers are in orange I think if I have worked this right?