Someone help please!

[TwisttheLeaf]

He knows everything,

If I chose her she will never trust me again and it would be over so by this logic based on what I Have done I have to pick him....

I'm glad to hear that at least -he- knows everything.

I wouldn't assume that she would react by breaking up with you or never trusting you again. People can forgive a LOT of the one they love, even cheating.

Also, this.... "based on what I Have done I have to pick him".

I'm sorry but I hold objection to the words "have to". Do you NEED to be with someone to be happy? Are you not your own man and able to stand on your own if neither is the "right one"?

Others talk about not having regrets. But, the fact is? Because of the way you started down this path (dishonestly) you will always have regrets for what happens. Regrets that you weren't honest to your girl. Regrets that -someone- got hurt. Unless someone is a sociopath, there will always be regrets in life. (Acceptance that that's the way it had to be to get where you are today doesn't negate the fact that regrets along the way can and do happen.)

The moral of my post? If you want to stick with your girl.... then give your girl a chance to make up her own mind, instead of assuming what she'll do and making it up for her.