07-26-2014, 04:16 AM
I'm an older guy (48) and I'm constantly getting kids (18 (I hope) through 20's) making suggestive comments and even bluntly telling me they want to have sex with me.
So this idea that attraction to older guys is something wrong is only based on a society that refuses to accept the reality that a lot of 'kids' want old, old, men to play with.
The just sex part may be the real problem here. Thus far you talk about sex, have you had a relationship?'
You know that is sorta call back for sex again, but with other things like love, romance, companionship, etc.
When you meet that one special guy that floats your whole world, that guilt thing comes to a crashing end. Usually. Unless you have been abused viciously by society and have serious issues over sex, homosexuality and stuff.
Guilt may also be a manifestation of your own secret desire to have a relationship, something meaningful and you feel that you are cheapening sex and yourself with each new casual connection you make, so you come away feeling used and not completely satisfied....
Sex is sort of sedative in a way... We tend to forget aches and pains and consequences during sex - so its typical that after the dirty deed is done that that sedative effect wears off. So maybe you should try keeping it in the pants and striking up a friendship potential relationship with the next guy and see how you feel about yourself and the idea of sex with him after a date or two... And honest assessment of sex, not 'I sure bet he's hot in bed....
So this idea that attraction to older guys is something wrong is only based on a society that refuses to accept the reality that a lot of 'kids' want old, old, men to play with.
The just sex part may be the real problem here. Thus far you talk about sex, have you had a relationship?'
You know that is sorta call back for sex again, but with other things like love, romance, companionship, etc.
When you meet that one special guy that floats your whole world, that guilt thing comes to a crashing end. Usually. Unless you have been abused viciously by society and have serious issues over sex, homosexuality and stuff.
Guilt may also be a manifestation of your own secret desire to have a relationship, something meaningful and you feel that you are cheapening sex and yourself with each new casual connection you make, so you come away feeling used and not completely satisfied....
Sex is sort of sedative in a way... We tend to forget aches and pains and consequences during sex - so its typical that after the dirty deed is done that that sedative effect wears off. So maybe you should try keeping it in the pants and striking up a friendship potential relationship with the next guy and see how you feel about yourself and the idea of sex with him after a date or two... And honest assessment of sex, not 'I sure bet he's hot in bed....
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