attractions

[Virge]

I totally completely entirely agree about labels. What I want to know is, why are you specifying that it's incomprehensible in the GAY world. Isn't it also (and maybe more so)
incomprehensible in the straight world?

yes of course....... but I was speaking directly to gays at the time I said that and had that example about my room mate in my head at that moment.

Let me give you another example.... I've yet to meet a straight person who's let on that they think there's anything sexual going on with me hanging out with an extended group of about a dozen healthy mostly heterosexual men about my age a great deal of the time. It's really neat that they can tell girlfriends or wives they're going to hang out with me and the women never become suspicious of any hanky panky.

Now.... go talk to almost any local gay men or women (60 mile radius is "local" up here) and most will speculate or even tell you I'm fucking all the straight guys I hang out with....

>>>>So when they meet up with someone or something that does not fit into their pre-existing labels they squeeze, push, fold and cram it into a label they like rather than ever consider

"Are my labels all wrong?"