Dumped, and it hurts so much.

[Jake]

sorry I just re-read your post.
Sorry if I'm talking out of turn but this guy is a total f*cker. He spoke to SOMEONE ELSE on the phone when he was with you? WTF? and that comment about it being a good grindr photo?
I say cut him loose and now. I stand by my previous comment about you deserve better.

I can see that some people here are as much emotional than the Ops. As MikeW said in its eloquent post (as always Mike ); we do not have full details of what happened between the two, there's only one side and none of us has witness what went between the two months. Also as I said often and will say it again... TWO Months is not a relationship, a relationship cannot be define in a two months dating, simply because it's too magical, often too sexual. If you loved him that much dear OPS - not that I don't understand your reaction from being hurt, you would have agreed to take a break and go on with that friendship offer. I know just like Memechose said sometime you got to learn to swallow your pride, what defines a real relationship is when both understand that sometimes someday one will fall in the nerves of the other.

Two months or even more years of relationship does bring insecurities and it's just normal. All of you champion of relationship out there you're not going to make me swallow that all is blue sky for you on that front. But for those like my husband and I who have passed the cap of the 5 years relationship AND LIVING together, you have learned to convey your fears and insecurities and speak it off with your love one.

It's a learning curve for you OPS, but don't stop there, yes you were hurt, but love wounds can heal if you have the will for it.

What happened with you and you dude, I served it to my husband in the beginning of our relationship, after being 4 months together, I've started being scared and jealous of his surroundings, but even if I'm a behavioural psychologist, it doesn't mean that those feelings doesn't apply to me. The message your dude said about Grindr sounds to me that it was a bit of insecurities, or even jealousy toward you... which finally got to him and made him say things he may regret now. But there's only one way for you to find out, unblock him and talk it off.

We, the member of GS, there's very little we can do, unless feeling sorry for you. But I may sound like an asshole, but I for say do not feel sorry for you. I feel happy for you because this could have happened in a time where your relationship with your dude would have been much more serious and less physical... and that's hurt much more. I'm sorry for not feeling sorry!