06-05-2017, 05:01 PM
This might come over as misogynistic, but I get really confused when lesbians call themselves "gay". I've run into some really butch-looking lesbians who call themselves "gay" online, and, from their small, fuzzy profile pictures and with no name, I assume they're men. Then I message them, or else I refer to them in a related discussion as "he" this and that, and they take offence. I wouldn't mind were it not so confusing!