Has the paradigm changed for gay bars?

[Buzzer]

I think the people changed a lot right before I left which was one of the reasons I left. They weren't nearly as friendly as the people before them and they would ask me questions like "How much money does that guy make?"...or "What kind of car does he drive?" ...or "Where does he work?"....those were all VERY NEW QUESTIONS and I hated them

Very materialistic...and I wasn't into it. They were also a lot more judgmental and snotty in general

I believe you reached the same conclusion at the bottom of your post, but this sounds to me like all that happened was that gay dating began to more closely resemble straight dating.

I'd honestly have to put this one down as an "American thing" too... probably even going above what's a homo or hetero norm. Things like how, today, parents do not back up teachers at all and frequently wind up in open conflicts with them are just, imo, symptoms of a whole culture that embraces the idea that "your income = your value." I've literally heard parents of school-age children say things, including at my work, like "What do they know anyway, if they were so smart they'd be doing a job that makes real money and not teaching." "You know what they say about those who can't do, they teach."