My boyfriend, me and a cat.

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I was told thru a PM one of my remarks made it seem I was being tough on the OP for not wanting the cat. I', sorry if I came across that way. I was concentrating on the cat being an issue between two people and really not trying to take sides ---- even though I can't be impartial cuz I love my cats and my dogs like they dropped out of my imaginary uterus.

All of this is really a good example of something I've probably said a few hundred dozen times in here..... In a relationship you can't make decisions that are good for the "me" or the "you." You have to make decisions that are good for the "us" whether the "you" or the "me" likes them or not. It's not as hard as it sounds once you get to the point you can keep the "you" and the "me" from acting like spoiled brats about getting their ways.

Try to remember something about the kitten. It has no idea of the tension going on between you and your BF. It's happy to be anywhere with anyone. There's no need to treat it less than kind. It just wants to be friends with everyone and will do all it can to make that happen. You don't need to do hardly anything in return to be friends back.