09-28-2014, 04:03 AM
Borg69 Wrote:The ex sounds like a tool... to be sure... but on the other hand - I've had friends I've known for years. Some of them go through a different BF every other month. Not to sound too cold, but I don't waste a lot of time trying to get to know them as I know they won't be around long. I could kinda see his side in that THEIR "relationship"/friendship, from his point of view doesn't really involve YOU. Depending on how he feels, maybe he doesn't want to see his ex with someone else doing the things they used to do.
I have an Ex I'm friends with and years ago, it was hard for me to spend time with him and his then current BF seeing my ex doing things for him he wouldn't for me, or seeing him doing things with the BF which irritated me when I was with him opening old wounds.
If you love him, the baggage is part of the package.
Some good points here - I did consider these and would understand if he didn't want to meet me if we'd been together a month. We've been together for half a year now and while that's not a huge amount of time, it's not exactly a 'boyfriend of the month' situation either.
I understand the not seeing the ex doing similar things to what they used to do but at the end of the day the ex has a partner also - I'd be happy to hang out with them as a couple or something and it would probably help the ex to move on. Who knows - I'd just like to meet him so I can draw my own conclusions.