Would you go out with a Disabled person?

[sweetlad86]

I guess that for most people the whole deal is somewhat situational. By that I mean that a majority of the so-called "able-bodied" do not knowingly come into contact with disabled people on a regular enough basis to be able to form any relationships with them. On the other hand, there are meeting places and support groups for people with particular conditions. Until those living with disability can feel comfortable moving away from people more like them I guess that many friendships and other relationships will continue to have their origins within the clubs and support groups that exist for every condition.

I'm aware that my own relationship grew out of a similar ghettoised thinking. Although we may have been brought up in different countries, Albert and I tend to converge in matters of age, interests, mobility, academic attainment, work choices and experience, attitudes to family, our place in the world, politics, food, drink and plenty of other things besides.

For me, the opportunities for meeting disabled people are usually limited to groups with whom I work from time to time, whether it be running gamelan or hand-drumming workshops for the local deaf club, samba workshops for the local Asperger's group or for adults with learning difficulties or music technology composition sessions for people with mental illness or severe physical disability.

Perhaps I don't get out enough, but generally I am not aware of seeing disabled people in the places where I go for r and r and I would imagine that my experience of being with a range of people has at least raised my awareness to a minimal level.

Right to answer this first post..

Marshlander you probably have meet disabled people with out knowing, most people try to hind there conditions similar to how gay,bisexual,lesbian people do, and there are so many differed condtions most of which are unseen. Its all to do with how people come to terms with you there are.

Most able boded people think all disabled people have to be in a wheelchair and helpless, thats not always true..
A lot of people say to me why don't I wear a badge saying you are disabled (doesn't that sound like some thing:mad, I use a walking stick, which I didn't use for years because I thought it was like wearing a badge lol.

I was just wondering if what we have talked about here answers sweetlad's question or makes it easier for disabled people to find partners.

I think it probably doesn't help much ...?

I am aware that I am avoiding making a personal commitment to do anything useful. Yet, unless someone (or more likely all of us) does something, what is going to change? For example, zeon has committed us all to "support" sweetlad "150%". What does that actually mean? What is the difference in sweetlad's life if I only support him 0.003% rather than 150%?

One friend on here went through something of a crisis recently and the best I could do was write a message ... :frown:

It's at this point I feel a rebuke from Shadow coming on telling me not to think so hard

What I can say to this post is your all helping me come to terms with my disability and sexuality, which I think has happened since I joined this site.

All I say is thank you for this help, it does really help chatting to you all, it does help me and others that read this and any of the others I've put asking for help and advice. some of my posts aren't always about me.