Sexually inexperienced...

[meridannight]

In January I met an older guy, he's an actor and came to the opening night of a play to see a friend of his perform. A bunch of us went out after and this guy and I really hit it off. I felt so much more comfortable with him than I have with anyone until now. We have met up a few times since then and he brought me for dinner and went back to his place afterwards. That was the first time I ever sucked a guy off.

He could tell I was nervous but I still couldn't bring myself to say I'd never had sex. He said there was no need to all the way yet if I wanted to wait, but like I said I sucked him off and he asked if I would rim him, I guess he saw my hesitation and said he would do me first if I wanted. Before it went any further though he got a call that he had to answer and that was that. I went home.

He picked me up from the theatre last night and asked me to give him a blow job (in the car) because my flatmate was home and he said he had a mate staying at his house too.

I want to have sex. But I'm afraid if I tell him that I have no clue what I'm doing he'll go off me. But then he'll probably be able to tell from how useless I am anyway. I actually considered getting off my face and fucking some stranger just to get the first time over and done with. Is it off putting to have sex with a guy who's never done it before?

you are overthinking it. it is clear he likes you and wants to have sex with you. just go with the flow. you've already had sex with him, actual intercourse is not that far off from what you've already done. and it's really not that big of a deal, the first time.

i wouldn't tell a guy it was my first time ever having sex (and i didn't when it happened to me), at least not before already having done it with him. maybe months after the fact i would do it, if something more than a physical relationship developed between us. otherwise, he doesn't need to know that information. you don't need to divulge it, and it's altogether not that important anyway.

go have sex with him. and stop thinking about it.