There is no LGBT community

[Emiliano]

Yeah I apologize for using that tv show metaphor, and it isn't indicative at all on gay culture and isn't grounds for argument. Gays period. are very underrepresented in the media I have to 100% agree.

LA and NY are different period. Different atmosphere, different businesses, different cultures, different accents, different attitudes.

But forgive my ignorance, as someone who grew up thinking LA and New York were the gay capitals of America, I think I was misinformed. LA definately is not a gay hot spot. New York I have to sadly say nowadays really isn't either.

Me personally, San Francisco is the gay capital, possibly followed by Miami, then surprisingly Atlanta after that.

LA and New York do have gays, but I'm sure you can agree the gay community in New York, identical to here in LA, really isn't that great or supportive.

The gay community here in LA is very ambiguous. I mean LA is a artsy city, but gay men are hard to find, and they like it like that. In addition the gym or muscle type masculine type white guys are in top demand here in LA, followed by masculine Latinos.

Fem gays like myself, here in LA are probably wasting their time but gay asians of any type recently seem to be in hot demand strangely enough.

As far as clubs and bars go, I generally try to stay away from them. But there are a few I've been to and didn't really care for them. All the gay bars here in LA have drag queen shows, in which straight people love drag shows as of late and nothing ruins your night than seeing a bunch of straight couples in a gay bar.

There are also some leather bars I wouldn't dare go into because I know better.

I also don't do bathhouses really, and there are a ton of gay bathhouses here in LA. I don't know, I might change my mind about that one.

But again it's LA. I generally see cute guys everyday from going to work and class that I want to talk to, but can't and get too scared. Honestly, I would say 1 out of every 5 guys here are gay or same gender loving.

Yes gay men are definitely sexually focused. It's really why it's hard for gay men to make friends because really gay men can only befriend a guy he wants to fuck or get fucked by. Sad reality and pill to swallow.

I wouldn't classify the gay scene as a whole as being not great or not supportive in NYC. First, it's massive and its diverse. If we are talking about bars and clubs, depending on where you go in the city there are different crowds. A bar you go to in the village is going to have a very different vibe from one you go to in Williamsburg, or one you go to Harlem, or one you go to in Jackson Heights. There are absolutely places, especially in Harlem and Washington Heights where a black femme guy would be embraced and desired.

But the gay community here extends beyond bars, there's lots of other businesses and activities that cater to gay men. I can only really speak for here, since its the only city I know, but when you look outside of places that are filled with drunk people looking to get laid, there is more substance to be found.

When you talk about these different men of different ethnicities being "in demand", from whose perspective are you speaking from? Your own? Gay men as a whole in LA? Black macho men, white men, latino drag queens?
And what kind of gay is it that you want attention from? Fellow femme black men, white macho men, asian leather daddies, anyone with a dick?
Do you desire femme black men, are are you supportive of the ones that you encounter? Or are you another one of the masses that are just looking for a macho latino? What do you contribute to the building of a community feeling among the gay men that are more like you than not?