06-14-2016, 12:27 AM
Dating apps are pretty rough, especially when you're not living in a major city. A high percentage of people are there just to flirt, solicit pictures, etc. Even in a city with a big gay population there are a high percentage of people who flake out or disappear, it's just a numbers game.
This may sound counter-intuitive but have you tried more general forms of social media. I live in New York new but I grew up and went to college in very small towns. I found that it was easier to really connect with other gay people on platforms like Twitter. It's easier to get a sense of people's actual personality and intelligence rather than just the physical stats and preferences they share on the apps. I found friends and dates that way and it translated into good social capital when I later moved to a more populated area.
This may sound counter-intuitive but have you tried more general forms of social media. I live in New York new but I grew up and went to college in very small towns. I found that it was easier to really connect with other gay people on platforms like Twitter. It's easier to get a sense of people's actual personality and intelligence rather than just the physical stats and preferences they share on the apps. I found friends and dates that way and it translated into good social capital when I later moved to a more populated area.
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