Why So Many Flakes?

[InbetweenDreams]

I'd move (sorry). Not all cities have that 'inner city' feel. Dallas doesn't seem to have that kind of area. Traffic can suck but it's not usually a reason to stay away from a place you want to live (CA, maybe...).

Other than that, just be patient, keep your mind open and your standards where they are. I didn't meet The One until 31. It can be as much luck as anything, unfortunately.

Flakey people are everywhere though. It's not a gay phenomenon.

That's true. Well to be honest I have made the mistake of thinking maybe I should try to date a girl...but one problem. 75% who show up on dating apps are divorced and have kids. Not that I don't want kids, kind of undecided on that, but seems that I would get tangled up in a mess. From the little experience I have had with women, they're just like guys. I've even had the random, unexpected, nude picture pop up in my inbox. I mean it went from elevator conversation to look at my boobs real quick!

However, I have been given the advice to move many of times and I have certainly considered it. Now that I have my foot in the door with the job I have I can more easily go anywhere in the state. Just need to keep my confidence up when I go looking at other places. The experience with the software and database systems I have are much more specialized, so it is much more likely I will be a person of interest in a hiring process. The career stuff is pretty much key, next is getting out of all the debt I have put myself in. Mostly my car...but following the car was credit card debt.

So I face the decision of either trading the car in when it (hopefully) has a trade in value equal to what I owe and buy a cheaper, more economic car, like I don't know like a Prius -- what I had before I got the Challenger R/T. That would make payments half of what they are now and also reduce gas costs. Or I can also take the refinance route as well. Either way I'll have to wait on that. Long story short I bought too much car and bought too much crap on credit.