06-22-2016, 02:13 PM
I think you pegged it when you said "It´s all very new to him." You identify two problems here, vanilla sex, and his self-esteem issues.
5 months is not a lot of time for self-discovery, so the whole thing might be freaking him out and causing him to withdraw into his shell. Regarding sex, everyone is different, has different tastes for what turns them on or not. I'd ask him if it turns him off to do those things you mention.
Have you told him what doing those things makes you feel? Not just physically, but emotionally. For instance, I know when I'm sucking on my guy I feel so totally into his pleasure, more so than when he fucks me. I love looking into his eyes and seeing them roll back when I get it right. Being in control and also subservient to his needs is hot to me.
Regarding self-esteem, if you've grown up feeling inadequate for whatever reason, it can take a while to believe what others see in you. Even with constant validation. Keep the communication there, it's the most important thing.
5 months is not a lot of time for self-discovery, so the whole thing might be freaking him out and causing him to withdraw into his shell. Regarding sex, everyone is different, has different tastes for what turns them on or not. I'd ask him if it turns him off to do those things you mention.
Have you told him what doing those things makes you feel? Not just physically, but emotionally. For instance, I know when I'm sucking on my guy I feel so totally into his pleasure, more so than when he fucks me. I love looking into his eyes and seeing them roll back when I get it right. Being in control and also subservient to his needs is hot to me.
Regarding self-esteem, if you've grown up feeling inadequate for whatever reason, it can take a while to believe what others see in you. Even with constant validation. Keep the communication there, it's the most important thing.
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