08-15-2016, 11:00 PM
I never fully understood how one "discovers" he's gay after so many years. At first I didn't believe it until a friend of mine told me his story.
As for your situation, I don't think referring to your attraction to guys as fetish is helping. Telling your wife about it would definitely be a fair thing to do, but let's not fool ourselves - she won't stand for it and will probably leave you. I'd leave you, to be honest.
Even if she gets over the fact that you cheated, realizing you're bisexual(at least) is just too much for women.
Anyhow, there's no easy way around this, it's either you just stick to your wife and family and stop screwing around or you just be honest and leave her.
I dated a married guy once and never again. Being a "gay victim" is a really really horrible thing.
As for your situation, I don't think referring to your attraction to guys as fetish is helping. Telling your wife about it would definitely be a fair thing to do, but let's not fool ourselves - she won't stand for it and will probably leave you. I'd leave you, to be honest.
Even if she gets over the fact that you cheated, realizing you're bisexual(at least) is just too much for women.
Anyhow, there's no easy way around this, it's either you just stick to your wife and family and stop screwing around or you just be honest and leave her.
I dated a married guy once and never again. Being a "gay victim" is a really really horrible thing.
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