I'm married

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So, what's a little rape and violence between men then...

Sorry, can't control ourselves... it's in our nature.

That's just B.S.

You know that's not what I said. Extrapolating from my defense of physical and emotional passion acted and felt on out of mutual consent and desire to apply to a situation where the act is forced on another against his will is perverse. The two are nothing alike. The rapist may or may not feel desire, but the fact that he disregards the will, wishes, and emotions of the man one is supposed to care about under such circumstances invalidates his actions. They become indefensible. His desire -- if there is desire -- is not of the same quality. Instead it is a base aggression that does not care about its subject. And in consequence -- obvious moral and physical perspectives aside -- such an act cannot to be justified away by evoking lack or disregard of self-control.

The basic difference is not in self-control. Rapists don't lack self-control any more than anybody else. What they lack is respect and care for another. They are insensitive to the needs of the other. If you asked me, that is one of the worst offenses one can ever commit against another man. Whichever form it may take.