09-09-2016, 07:39 PM
Of course I don't know for sure, but I believe that "being gay" basically means to exclusively be attracted to the own gender, and anything additional (behaviour, clothing, etc) being a sociological phenomenon.
Going into philosophical mode and maybe talking complete bullshit, but let me try.
I believe that when many of us grew up, the only times when we could observe adult gays was on television, where often clichés were shown, caricatures, and I kinda believe that especially in earlier times (60s-80s), many of the now older gays have adopted traits of these caricatures, mostly subconciously. Ever since the 90s more and more gays have come out on tv, in music, and now on social media, and ever since, this old cliché has more and more vanished (a wider variety of "being gay" was shown), however certain traits have come to mjne and younger generations too.
Of course I haven't lived in a time when television didn't exist, but I would assume that it has always been straight people who defined gay people throughout centuries (until the late 20th century), and due to the fact that we like men, it was straight people who have thus "feminized" us in past centuries, because they mixed things up (liking men doesn't make us women)... and that many of us have adopted this concept - as said - more or less conciously, and I don't think I'm completely free from those "adopted traits" either.
So yep, in short, I think being gay is actually just liking men, and that "gay behaviour" comes from adaption.
Going into philosophical mode and maybe talking complete bullshit, but let me try.
I believe that when many of us grew up, the only times when we could observe adult gays was on television, where often clichés were shown, caricatures, and I kinda believe that especially in earlier times (60s-80s), many of the now older gays have adopted traits of these caricatures, mostly subconciously. Ever since the 90s more and more gays have come out on tv, in music, and now on social media, and ever since, this old cliché has more and more vanished (a wider variety of "being gay" was shown), however certain traits have come to mjne and younger generations too.
Of course I haven't lived in a time when television didn't exist, but I would assume that it has always been straight people who defined gay people throughout centuries (until the late 20th century), and due to the fact that we like men, it was straight people who have thus "feminized" us in past centuries, because they mixed things up (liking men doesn't make us women)... and that many of us have adopted this concept - as said - more or less conciously, and I don't think I'm completely free from those "adopted traits" either.
So yep, in short, I think being gay is actually just liking men, and that "gay behaviour" comes from adaption.
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