Aries
09-17-2016, 04:12 PM
This is an odd question, it's like asking "is it ok to shoot myself in the foot" well yeah sure it's ok since it's your foot and your gun. I'm not going to judge you or call you a coward because potentially losing your parents must be a terrifying thing.
But I don't think you should do it, in fact I don't think you've thought this through at all. This is pretty obviously going to backfire horribly.
You're limiting the number of guys you can settle down with to those willing to live in the closet. Which is a small portion of gay community now and it's only going to shrink over time.
The man you fall in love with might want to come out of the closet sometime leaving you with a very painful dilemma.
Your parents are going to wonder why you aren't bringing home any girls to see them. Requiring a complex web of lies to build between you and your parents that is going to damage your relationship and is probably going to unravel at some point anyway.
You wont be able to adopt or have surrogate kids if you or your partner wants them.
If something happens like your boyfriend cheating on you or god-forbid dying. You're not going to be able to talk to your parents or anyone but those closest friends. Hell you might not even be able to attend his funeral or visit him in hospital.
The longer you wait to come out of the closet the more betrayed people are going to feel when you do come out or get caught.
As time goes on and wider society gets more accepting it's going to get harder and harder to justify being in the closet. Frankly you're going to look and feel like a complete nutter if it's 2050 and you're still in the closet.
Depending on how long your parents live you're looking at 50 years of lying to almost everyone you know. That's gonna wear you down man. Sure you don't mind living in secrecy now wait til you've had a few years of it and you've got a boyfriend to hide.
This is a mistake man, by all means stay in the closet for a few years build a life first but you really need to be open.
But I don't think you should do it, in fact I don't think you've thought this through at all. This is pretty obviously going to backfire horribly.
You're limiting the number of guys you can settle down with to those willing to live in the closet. Which is a small portion of gay community now and it's only going to shrink over time.
The man you fall in love with might want to come out of the closet sometime leaving you with a very painful dilemma.
Your parents are going to wonder why you aren't bringing home any girls to see them. Requiring a complex web of lies to build between you and your parents that is going to damage your relationship and is probably going to unravel at some point anyway.
You wont be able to adopt or have surrogate kids if you or your partner wants them.
If something happens like your boyfriend cheating on you or god-forbid dying. You're not going to be able to talk to your parents or anyone but those closest friends. Hell you might not even be able to attend his funeral or visit him in hospital.
The longer you wait to come out of the closet the more betrayed people are going to feel when you do come out or get caught.
As time goes on and wider society gets more accepting it's going to get harder and harder to justify being in the closet. Frankly you're going to look and feel like a complete nutter if it's 2050 and you're still in the closet.
Depending on how long your parents live you're looking at 50 years of lying to almost everyone you know. That's gonna wear you down man. Sure you don't mind living in secrecy now wait til you've had a few years of it and you've got a boyfriend to hide.
This is a mistake man, by all means stay in the closet for a few years build a life first but you really need to be open.
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