Is it okay to NEVER come out?

[Insertnamehere]

You may decide to do as you please, if you're willing to deal with the consequences of your decisions.

I've made a similar choice and won't bother with the family or anyone else where I am at the moment. That has to do a lot with the non-existent emotional attachment with my family, the lack of friends and the overall feeling that too much time has passed in my life to pull that off now and get out of that unharmed.

That doesn't secure me, however, that they won't find out, but my aim here is to simply avoid the topic all together. If I manage that, I'm content.

The consequences of me choosing such a path are clear: I either go underground, get on a double life of sorts or I face loneliness. Considering the first 2 don't appeal to me, I'm facing the later consequence. It's hard, it's not particularly fun and it starts taking a slow but neverstopping toll on you.

It seems that you are choosing the first. It will be equally hard, but that's on you to develop mechanisms to make it work.

Of course, I don't plan on staying like this for very long. I intend to remove myself from this environment and the plan is on the motion. Question is, do you have a long term plan in order to make this kind of life endurable? If not, you'll be in for a rough patch.

But, I ain't going to say do this or that. Guys that are already out find it very easy to say "just do it" for x, y and z reasons. Guys like me, in a similar situation, can understand all too well why you would choose that, but ultimately we can't provide much better advice (let's face it, guys that are out often have that down well).

So, to simply put it, I'll go back to what I first said: Make a decision but measure the consequences involved very carefully.