Is it okay to NEVER come out?

[JCasey]

Having spent 36 years in the closet, I think I am qualified to chime in here. Hiding is difficult, but it also puts a strain on you emotionally and can affect you psychologically, which can manifest itself in strange ways. Unlike me, you will still be seeking out a life partner while in the closet, which will present any number of challenges itself. Many guys don't want to deal with a guy in the closet, which limits your field of potential partners even more than the relatively small pool of guys in your area. Finding a partner will be difficult without any tools (apps, etc) or going places where you are likely to meet other guys (gay bars, etc). If you are like me, in a rural area, you may go years without encountering anyone of interest, much less the love of your life. When you do find someone, he may not be willing to accept being part of a hidden life. It just opens up so many potential barriers and problems.

Here is my thought.... You are young, you are old enough to be able to support yourself with a job; why not work toward financial independence from your family, then come out? If they have a problem with it, you won't have to worry about losing a place to live and financial support. If all goes well, you should be on here in a year letting us know that you are financially stable, out to everyone, and perhaps even in a committed relationship.