Why I am still single...

[InbetweenDreams]

Well I am learning to slow down and be cool. I think it is an irrational fear and that I am often quite lonely, not because I don't have a bf, just in general.

I do agree that there should be no "trying." I think things should for the most part click into place, but that's not totally true either...it does take effort which a lot of people think "trying" is putting in effort and while that's sort of true you end up with different results depending on where the effort is coming from.

It is a negative feedback loop being lonely, I've kind of done the same thing. I have opened up to guys I probably wouldn't want to date and part of that is also figuring things out for myself as well but you get in this mindset that you need to date people, make friends, etc. Which is all fine but finding true love and good friends don't come very easy, even for the so-called social butterfly. Well not all the time anyway. I do think some people definitely glow and just somehow draw people in.