Why do guys have to be so dumb

[Shawn]

So I went out with a guy. We had an amazing date. Phenomenal. I hadn't felt this good about a guy in a long time. So we make plans for my next night off, 2 nights away. Another good date. And we had plans for the next day I had off, again 2 nights away. The next day, the day before our date he says he's not ready to date, he's got a lot going on and has mixed emotions...... UGH. I hate dating. I try to tell him we may have something good here, but he is dead set on being single. I, not going to pressure him any more than I did, but why does everyone seem to be set on doing all the hard thinking on their own. It's not just this guy, but so many before too. Why can't I be there for you in the hard times. I told him I don't want him to disappear on me like I have let all the others, and he told me that he would respond in a day. It's been a few and lo and behold no response. Why do I even try?

People this days are so unsure about relationships, and most are afraid to give their hearts to someone, some people will try to make distance between you because maybe they began to feel more of what they really wanted to feel or can control. that's what mainly happens. it's normal. in my case I didn't success with anybody like this, I tend to reject dudes with this attitude very quickly, because often they have to mature too much and to reach that it takes years, I don't have time to wait.

In your case try to say him that you just want to be his friend (I tried with some dudes but didn't work, also because it wasn't mine fault they acted this way) if not, just find someone else. just not allow someone to let play you.