Why do guys have to be so dumb

[InbetweenDreams]

Well there are many reason why someone would end up getting cold feet about dating....but after just one date...My luck would have it that they had some afterthoughts about you. I have had afterthoughts about people after the first date, usually when things from my point of view didn't quite go all that well.

I have dated several guys who I only dated once and never seen or heard from a second time. Even dates I thought went relatively well, clearly they didn't think so....

While what I'm about to say probably doesn't apply in this case. A lot of guys, especially those who are finishing college, starting a new career do have valid reasons to not date or want to get into serious relationship. For one it is almost certainly going to be added stress and sometimes those of us who are a little more settled in things, jobs, etc don't realize it. Most people can't just concentrate on being a good friends because well quite frankly we date people who we think are handsome and we really want to screw, even if you really do like them. I mean after all what's better than being friends with a handsome guy? Having sex with them too... and frequently. However, I feel that most don't really see it as being that. My thoughts are is if you really really like someone you can afford to abstain and stick around. Just have to have the faith that you're wasting your own time either.

Anyway, I think this case, this is just another case of a flake unfortunately. I'm talking to a guy right now, kind of a big guy like muscular...does landscaping and such, doesn't seem to likely be my type but he's been pretty persistent and kind of not sure about him. I get the feeling he probably is mostly after a screw...not sure if I really want to meet him or not...