11-01-2016, 01:14 AM
To me being submissive means giving up your control and power to someone else, putting their interests or pleasure ahead of yours, and a few other, more negatively connotated ideas.
I'm not a submissive person. I'm not necissarily a dominant person either though. I prefer more balanced power structures, whether I'm topping or bottoming. Call me boring, vanilla, whatever... but it's a turn off to me when I encounter people who are really locked into those roles. For me, one of the things that really appeals to me about being with other guys is that, for lack of a better word, equality between us.
Even with a casual hookup, I like mutual respect, and despite what people who are more open to dominant and submissive roles have told me, it seems like a very unbalanced distribution of respect, for each other and for ones self, to me.
I'm not a submissive person. I'm not necissarily a dominant person either though. I prefer more balanced power structures, whether I'm topping or bottoming. Call me boring, vanilla, whatever... but it's a turn off to me when I encounter people who are really locked into those roles. For me, one of the things that really appeals to me about being with other guys is that, for lack of a better word, equality between us.
Even with a casual hookup, I like mutual respect, and despite what people who are more open to dominant and submissive roles have told me, it seems like a very unbalanced distribution of respect, for each other and for ones self, to me.
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