What does being submissive me to you?

[artyboy]

It is an interesting question for sure. I cant speak about anyone else's experiences but my own, and for me, I have a very strong sense of self. Being told what to do, or having someone else trying to assert their control or power over me really bothers me. And in a similar way, I dont like asserting control or power over others. Whether its financial, sexual, intellectual, or otherwise.

I like to be in control of myself and im attracted to men who like to be in control of themselves. When I see people who think they are better than others, more powerful, or generally dominant, I want to see them humbled. When I see people who think they are lesser than others, weaker, or generally submissive, I want to see them empowered. That kind of sums up my world view, but of course, not all people see it like that, which is why I dont go around trying to force balance on people.

Im also not into weird sex or roleplaying and that kind of stuff. I dont treat sex as a fantasy or a game, so maybe thats why I can't see how I'd be comfortable with playing either of those roles. How I am in in bed is fairly similar to how I am out of it. And I expect to be treated in similar ways. The only thing slightly kinky about me, is that I can get into some westling. Thats a power exchange, yeah, but in my mind, its lot hotter than walking into a bedroom and knowing exactly who is going to top and who is going to bottom.

Maybe its my personality type, how I was raised, how I project my masculinity, the kind of interactions I had when I was first becoming sexually active, maybe the porn ive seen messed with my perception, maybe its the prejudice I've faced, or just boring old stereotype threat. Im aware of certain hang ups I have that might be a little irrational, but that doesn't make them go away. I over analyze and I read more into situations than might actually be there, or on the other hand, that other people might not be as conscious of.

But I know what I like and I know what makes me feel uncomfortable.

Yep I totally understand where your coming from. I don't think you should do anything that is uncomfortable.