What does being submissive me to you?

[TwisttheLeaf]

When I speak if submission, I'm not saying I give up 100% complete control. I still know how to entice my guy and go for what I want. I know how to make him work harder by not giving in so easily. I'm not into chains and whips, but I do like a good grip around the throat and a guy who knows how he wants it, when he wants it, wherever he wants it (privately, if course). I ain't with being slapped, beat and degraded! Outside the bedroom, I like my guy to have some stern to him... Be a boss! No bitchiness or whining.

^^Exactly.

Being submissive doesn't make someone a doormat.
A doormat is a doormat.
Having submissive qualities [whether just in the bedroom, or just with ONE person (as in my case), or even 24/7] simply means you like to hand over control... or have it taken from you... in some capacity. ((HORRIBLE sentence structure, but I'm sure you get it anyway.))

Being submissive (or Dominant)... or being in a D/s relationship... doesn't always mean whips and chains and all that shit either. It's about the dynamic of give and take between two people, not a toy fetish.