Who did you come out to?

[meridannight]

No one, and everyone. I live my life as I see fit and let others draw their own conclusions. Those that ask get an honest answer. I've done it that way from the start.

Exactly the same here. I don't usually go out to specifically tell, but if I'm asked I tell the truth. I have no problem with people knowing.

I have told guys who I felt should know. Two of my best friends, for example. Neither of them ever had a problem, and both took it well from the beginning. And it made things better for me, because I can openly comment on other guys with them, and joke about sexual matters in the right context (both of my best friends are heterosexual).

Then, I've let some other guys know, when the opportunity has presented itself, and it felt right. A few months ago I was chatting with guys I see a lot professionally; we happened to be on some topic about female dancers, and the guys (3 of them) looked at me for some input on the subject, and I told them flat out not to expect me to contribute anything to the subject at hand, I didn't know anything about that. Again, after that things are better and more open between us. Although we're not exactly friends, we can joke about things and have it in the right context. Next time I saw them, they made a joke in a gay context all on their own. It's small stuff when I describe it here, but I like it when things are open and honest. At least with guys I like and who are more or less closer to me.

Then, there have been a couple of guys who claimed they knew from when they first met me that I was gay. I haven't really asked them what it was that made them so sure. When I questioned one of them about it, he said it wasn't anything specific, that he just has a gaydar and can tell when he meets a gay man.


I told my mom a long time ago, but she thinks it's all a phase and I haven't met the right girl yet. I don't really care if she believes me or not, her opinion doesn't matter to me so I never took the subject up after that. I told her, it was the truth, that's all there is.


I do wish I had a dad I could talk to about this whole subject. I'd like that, and it's something that is more important to me. But I didn't get that option in life.