02-17-2017, 02:16 PM
Good advice above. There is no timeline to all this. Be yourself. If it feels right in the moment, then go for it, hands, mouth, butt... it's not a matter of winning, it's about sexual satisfaction. I enjoy every aspect, truly versatile, and get satisfaction from both pleasing my partner, as much as getting pleasure from him. They are satisfying in different ways.
The first guy I felt a connection with, and dated, rather than just hooked up with, it was date 3 or 4 before we did anything, and I limited it to oral. We hung out the first time and played video games, got fro-yo another time, cooked him dinner the next couple of times.
This week has seen a few firsts for the my fiance and I. 20 months together and we are just starting to really explore our sexuality together. He's finally coping better with his 2 rapes, his abusive ex-boyfriends, and our relationship is more solid (because I'm learning to communicate better and being more assertive,) so he has been more open to me. I've been patient with him because of his background, my newness to gay sex, and the fact that I absolutely LOVE him.
As InbetweenDreams said above, it's about communication. Go on a date, tell him flat out how you feel about him, where you see your relationship now, and where you would like it to go. Include all your insecurities, and be honest about wanting sex, but not wanting the relationship to be just sex. You already have a friendship not based on sex, so you are already ahead of the game with a lot of couples.
The first guy I felt a connection with, and dated, rather than just hooked up with, it was date 3 or 4 before we did anything, and I limited it to oral. We hung out the first time and played video games, got fro-yo another time, cooked him dinner the next couple of times.
This week has seen a few firsts for the my fiance and I. 20 months together and we are just starting to really explore our sexuality together. He's finally coping better with his 2 rapes, his abusive ex-boyfriends, and our relationship is more solid (because I'm learning to communicate better and being more assertive,) so he has been more open to me. I've been patient with him because of his background, my newness to gay sex, and the fact that I absolutely LOVE him.
As InbetweenDreams said above, it's about communication. Go on a date, tell him flat out how you feel about him, where you see your relationship now, and where you would like it to go. Include all your insecurities, and be honest about wanting sex, but not wanting the relationship to be just sex. You already have a friendship not based on sex, so you are already ahead of the game with a lot of couples.
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