How soon is too soon for oral sex?

[InbetweenDreams]

I think the biggest fear for most people is getting kicked in the curb or getting thrown into "the friend zone" and it does suck when that happens, but it only gets worse when people don't want to talk about it. That and I think that when someone is interested in dating and say you aren't no one wants to be the one to say hey, you're a nice guy but I'm not sexually attracted to you, or I'm not looking for that...everyone wants to dance around the issues and just simply say what we really want to say. I mean I feel like I'm both straight forward and also a bit long winded, but I don't think it is a bad thing.

If there's anything I have learned in my experiences. If they really like you, they will put forth effort. If they aren't attracted to you physically, they probably won't call you handsome or tell you that you're sexy (unless they're liars and there are a lot of guys who will play along and pretend, but I think that stuff is a lot like fake smiles you can kind of tell). It is, at least for myself, to just kid myself into thinking that maybe... *bangs head into keyboard*

As far as sex goes, yes it is important but not the main focus... I think guys who just assume you just want to fuck them because you bring up sex probably aren't worth your time, unless you want to wait for them to grow up. I mean I knew someone who I felt would feel that way I were to bring that up... So yeah definitely need to feel comfortable...

But that's almost never the way things are, stigmas, stereotypes, expectations, their needs, your needs, your space, their space... That's why it is almost impossible to find someone we really like and is reciprocated back... What is it that everyone is afraid of, why am I afraid of being rejected? Human nature?

Anyway, I think sometimes it would be better if people were less serious...including myself and other people I have encountered.