How soon is too soon for oral sex?

[MikeW]

... I don't want him thinking that I'm a whore, who gives it up to everyone.

:eek:

Seriously, though, you're over-thinking this. I get it, you don't want to turn this into a 'sex only' thing. But that has nothing to do with how long you've been dating and everything to do with how you see and experience one another. Do you only objectify one another as sexual objects, or is there a genuine interest in getting to know one another as men? If the former, then there's nothing wrong with that so long as you're both on the same page. Same with the latter. I just don't see how sex gets in the way of two people getting to know one another. Or, to put it another way, if you lose interest in each other, it won't be just because you had sex (of whatever flavor).

It is equally possible to do just the OPPOSITE, you know. Become such good friends you end up putting each other in the "friend zone." You know, that place that is all warm and fuzzy but without heat and fire. I don't think that's what you're after either, is it? I doubt he is either!

Have fun, be happy, get to know one another. It'll become clear whether there is genuine attraction and interest between you soon enough.

But as others have said, whatever you do, COMMUNICATE. Speak your truth. Don't make him have to 'wonder' what's going on in you. Tell him. And listen to him when he replies in kind. What does *he* want?