Leo
04-24-2017, 09:13 PM
Well for one thing, man or woman, still human and therefore you can expect similar problems... women want money and men want sex... A lot of people have their priorities on what they want, whether it is something mutual or not is the big thing.
Not all guys are going to be offended if you ask them if they're gay. I will honestly say it is a similar dilemma... How can I date someone who isn't on a sex app? I mean it isn't the sex that is the problem it is the intent. Are they just looking for a fuck or are they looking to date, hang out, that type thing. Me personally, no I am not that forward to ask a guy if they are gay or not... I do, however, assume that they're gay if you they're on a gay dating app...
If you live in a bigger city that has a gay bar, might be something you can try, just go and have a beer or something... I don't know. I live out here in the middle of nowhere and there's not much choice in how I find guys to date, all has to be online dating and I cna imagine that in a city you have that much more to sift through.
When you get to the point where you are actually meeting someone I guess it goes the same way, just be yourself, talk about things you do, find some common ground.
Unfortunately there is no clear cut answer but I suspect you are worried and anxious about dating guys and perhaps dating in general. Only advice I can say is learn to not worry so much, because even when you do fall for a guy if it turns out they aren't for you, you have to realize there's nothing that you can do to change it and you can't change them and you can't change yourself to suit them. Either things will work out and it will be great or at some point it will unravel....so relax and let things go naturally. This coming from someone who is single and in the last year been on some big highs and lows emotionally and I fall for same mistakes I have pointed out and give good advice that I should take myself and don't. It is crazy how the mind works and how powerful emotions can be.
Not all guys are going to be offended if you ask them if they're gay. I will honestly say it is a similar dilemma... How can I date someone who isn't on a sex app? I mean it isn't the sex that is the problem it is the intent. Are they just looking for a fuck or are they looking to date, hang out, that type thing. Me personally, no I am not that forward to ask a guy if they are gay or not... I do, however, assume that they're gay if you they're on a gay dating app...
If you live in a bigger city that has a gay bar, might be something you can try, just go and have a beer or something... I don't know. I live out here in the middle of nowhere and there's not much choice in how I find guys to date, all has to be online dating and I cna imagine that in a city you have that much more to sift through.
When you get to the point where you are actually meeting someone I guess it goes the same way, just be yourself, talk about things you do, find some common ground.
Unfortunately there is no clear cut answer but I suspect you are worried and anxious about dating guys and perhaps dating in general. Only advice I can say is learn to not worry so much, because even when you do fall for a guy if it turns out they aren't for you, you have to realize there's nothing that you can do to change it and you can't change them and you can't change yourself to suit them. Either things will work out and it will be great or at some point it will unravel....so relax and let things go naturally. This coming from someone who is single and in the last year been on some big highs and lows emotionally and I fall for same mistakes I have pointed out and give good advice that I should take myself and don't. It is crazy how the mind works and how powerful emotions can be.
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