How to Date Guys..?

[princealbertofb]

First off I want to make clear that I am not OUT on the front page with things surrounding my sexuality at this moment in time, however I feel like I could have an easier time if I could find a guy to, you know give me a tiny bit of confidence..? Not like would have a problem showing love for him, just getting out of my shell a bit..? I don't know...

How are guys supposed to throw themselves out there, without the target saying "no thanks, I'm straight.." or worse verbal scenarios that have gone thru my head recently..?

May seem like a dumb question and I apologize. Some days I just don't know how to move forward..? After years of trying to date women and that not going anywhere, just looking to find someone who'd appreciate me for me, and that I could show the same back...

*****EDIT*****

I have had an encounter with a guy before; we traded off sucking each other until got hard, and then finished each other off on a couple of towels... I didn't have the courage to take his load, nor did he want mine, however the further into the future I get, the more that I want to try that, if not more...

So basically, what you're asking is, how can you meet guys who might want you for you rather than take advantage of you? How does a relationship become meaningful?

The awful truth is that, unless you find that rare gem on your first date, you might have to do a bit more experimenting -- you know the kissing frogs bit.

How to meet guys who will at least let you have a go at being your sexual / emotional self? Most young people have these apps on their phones and learn how to use those (Grindr or others). I don't know if this is a big no-no for you but you are of that generation, so that might be a way of meeting up with people. You can always go out for a drink or a coffee before anything sexual happens (always try to choose a public place for that first meeting), and that's probably the best way to find if there is anything going on that is worth investing your time and energy in.

Other ways of meeting people are to join groups (walking, drama, singing choirs, cookery classes, etc.). Or you can try the old trick of going to gay bars, but maybe you live in a very isolated area, so that might be difficult.

Whatever means you employ to meet someone, there will be a degree of having to put yourself out there, so there's no escaping that, I'm afraid. You'll just have to bite the bullet and show availability for some experimentation, and / or something more serious.

Good luck in your quest.

Edit : once you are OUT, you'll find people who are interested in hooking you up with other gay people they know. It's a bit like trying to find a boyfriend for your sister, by thinking of all your single male friends who might be compatible. But as long as you're not out, those options are closed to you.