How to Date Guys..?

[Cheet0V90]

So basically, what you're asking is, how can you meet guys who might want you for you rather than take advantage of you? How does a relationship become meaningful?

The awful truth is that, unless you find that rare gem on your first date, you might have to do a bit more experimenting -- you know the kissing frogs bit.

How to meet guys who will at least let you have a go at being your sexual / emotional self? Most young people have these apps on their phones and learn how to use those (Grindr or others). I don't know if this is a big no-no for you but you are of that generation, so that might be a way of meeting up with people. You can always go out for a drink or a coffee before anything sexual happens (always try to choose a public place for that first meeting), and that's probably the best way to find if there is anything going on that is worth investing your time and energy in.

Other ways of meeting people are to join groups (walking, drama, singing choirs, cookery classes, etc.). Or you can try the old trick of going to gay bars, but maybe you live in a very isolated area, so that might be difficult.

Whatever means you employ to meet someone, there will be a degree of having to put yourself out there, so there's no escaping that, I'm afraid. You'll just have to bite the bullet and show availability for some experimentation, and / or something more serious.

Good luck in your quest.

Edit : once you are OUT, you'll find people who are interested in hooking you up with other gay people they know. It's a bit like trying to find a boyfriend for your sister, by thinking of all your single male friends who might be compatible. But as long as you're not out, those options are closed to you.

Yeah man u hit the nail squarely on head. An not afraid of that sone much, just hate how I was totally ignored by this gal who I put everything toward and she ended up cheating on me too, just to screw with my mind...

Am not a typical case of a (somewhat questioning) gay guy either, was straight (or thought I was) for longest time, but then one day I came across a video where a domination forced a guy to suck off her boyfriend. I got more invested in the next fewe vids I watched, then now IK am at least Bi, plus guys are easier to figure out too IMO at least so far..?

Good point with the sister point, however I don't have one...

Just have parents who'd never understand that I still am living with, so...