Hi there

[baristajedi]

Hi, glad to hear from you again.

How do you feel about being together with a woman? Is it to some extent different from being together with a man? I think the struggle of understanding gender is what most of us might have experienced along our way to maturity. Now I believe, from reading, that gender is by no means natural, but naturalized. The society overall tries to make us internalized with the false combination of "femininity=female" and "masculinity=male".

I am ok with labels. I identify myself with the term "gay" since I am both sexually and romantically attracted to men. However, on second thought, I have this friend (a girl), whom I enjoy being with a lot, and I assume it won't be a big problem for me to be with her without any intimacy (no cuddling, no kissing, no sex, only talking, cooking, and watching movies). That makes me think it may be true that sexual attraction and romantic attraction can be decoupled. That being said, it may also be nothing more than false perception as I have never been with her long enough to see if this works. Maybe I just enjoy talking, cooking, and watching movies with her. In a nutshell, I think I am gay, and I hope that I made myself clear despite the subtleties.

It happens to be that one of my thesis supervisors is also a lesbian, and she has her butch hair dyed ginger, which is super cool. Have you dyed your hair? Do you know Ellen Degeneres? She is also a lesbian with butch hair. Do you like her?

Alvin

Hi again

Being with a woman feels very different to me than being with a man. It feels more natural, complete...I have more desire, warmth, emotional pull, emotional openness. We communicate better, understand each other better, we're more honest. I feel we see and admire each other as more full people than I've felt with a male/female relationship. We admire each other's strength, see and appreciate each other's beauty in a more substantial way than men seem to with me in the past. Being with a man always felt like there were a lot of games as well.

I agree with what you say about gender....so much if it comes from the way culture tells us we should see gender. Do you feel on some level that you don't fit into society's definition of gender?

I think sexuality for some is fluid; perhaps you have some romantic feelings for this girl? Then again, maybe there is just a lot of emotional chemistry and intimacy, but no sexual interest. I say embrace it, just enjoy it

In terms of my appearance, I can add a pic, I don't mind (if I can figure out how to) - my hair is my natural colour. But I've dyed it many times!

I LOVE ellen

What celebrities do oh admire? Are there any gay male celebrities you identify with?



Gonna try for a pic.... maybe need to attach it as a file, not sure it will work...