Why did I get ghosted?

[kai35]

So he has some hurdles to get over, the real question here is, are you willing to go through those hurdles with him or will keep him at arms length as he is keeping you?

I truly don't know the answer to that question, and that's what I find most disturbing about this situation. I've been on dozens if not hundreds of dates. And in all of them, as far as I remember, after the first date I was either (a) uninterested, (b) interested and it was abundantly clear the other person was signaling they were not interested during the date, or © mutually interested and there were subsequent interactions. I've never been so convinced during a date that there was mutual interest to have it turn out that there was apparently no interest. I've always been pretty good at reading people's feelings (I'm actually a psychiatrist, so it's something I do for a living).

If he had signaled a lack of interest during the date, I would have probably been disappointed but moved on rather quickly, and the answer to your question would be no. But this has just lead to ongoing confusion because all I remember is good conversation, laughing, and tangibly good chemistry. I've never felt that, much less shared a bed with someone and/or let them touch me, and subsequently been ignored. Being ignored is usually preceded by an awkward date. What's worst is that I feel like the good chemistry caused me to let my guard down and that there is some part about me that I exposed that is unappealing. I feel like that's going to screw me up in the future. I have enough difficulty getting anxious/unconfident on dates. This just adds fuel to that fire.