06-04-2017, 07:02 PM
Well, @Zen, of course you are feeling the tug of attraction to men, and the tug of the newby to start a relationship or something to get the juices flowing (so to speak). But as in any other relationship isn't there something like a period of courtship or something that you could impose mentally on yourself? Is this impaired by the fact that you and this man have known one another for a long time? Do you think you've got him pegged down already or is there more about him you could be learning for a relationship to come out of this potentially?
I think you might try to do a bit of official dating with him while, maybe, also trying out some other dates to see whether he could be the one, or if you are looking for something else.
I think it is not uncommon for former friends to become something more especially when one of you suddenly becomes 'available'. I'm sure your friend never 'hit on you' whilst he thought you were straight. Well, maybe a little bit of light banter, but now he's going to pursue this because he obviously likes you.
The thing is you haven't had time to sow your wild 'gay' oats yet, and maybe you need to do this. It's pretty much what men do who've suddenly let themselves loose from a straight relationship. I'm not saying all of them do, but there is this temptation to make up for wasted time. Again I'm not saying that you will feel as if you need to do this, not if you find that perfect relationship right off the bat.
Maybe this is something that you definitely need to discuss with him. Let him know how you feel, let him know about your hangups and see if together you can't work through them.
He, on the other hand, has already had time to evaluate you as a potential good partner to make a life with, so maybe ask him why he thinks that. And it ought to be about more than you having a broad frame. :biggrin: . For one thing, he doesn't even know if you'd be a good fuck, to be blunt. Maybe you need to ask him what he thinks would become of your friendship, should you both go down the friend with benefits route and find out that you are romantically incompatible. Ask him, I'm sure he'll welcome the opportunity to open up his heart.
I think you might try to do a bit of official dating with him while, maybe, also trying out some other dates to see whether he could be the one, or if you are looking for something else.
I think it is not uncommon for former friends to become something more especially when one of you suddenly becomes 'available'. I'm sure your friend never 'hit on you' whilst he thought you were straight. Well, maybe a little bit of light banter, but now he's going to pursue this because he obviously likes you.
The thing is you haven't had time to sow your wild 'gay' oats yet, and maybe you need to do this. It's pretty much what men do who've suddenly let themselves loose from a straight relationship. I'm not saying all of them do, but there is this temptation to make up for wasted time. Again I'm not saying that you will feel as if you need to do this, not if you find that perfect relationship right off the bat.
Maybe this is something that you definitely need to discuss with him. Let him know how you feel, let him know about your hangups and see if together you can't work through them.
He, on the other hand, has already had time to evaluate you as a potential good partner to make a life with, so maybe ask him why he thinks that. And it ought to be about more than you having a broad frame. :biggrin: . For one thing, he doesn't even know if you'd be a good fuck, to be blunt. Maybe you need to ask him what he thinks would become of your friendship, should you both go down the friend with benefits route and find out that you are romantically incompatible. Ask him, I'm sure he'll welcome the opportunity to open up his heart.
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