This guy...

[Zen]

All I can say is I don't see the point of you giving your current marriage a second chance if you're gay, I can't imagine you being too happy. There are ways to end things amicably and retain some level of friendship and understanding, Fran Drescher and her ex-husband would be a great example of that. Before anything else, you need to take care of that before this other guy, so you can move forward and be kind to your wife.

Thanks @Confuzzled! I will check out Fran Drescher. You're right things need to be kind and thoughtful.