Would You Date A Guy Who Has A Kid?

[Pyromancer]

And before you say, "Of course I would. I love kids" let me tell you about my date last night. First, let me say that dating is not a priority for me...I'm still processing a truckload of shit , and the last thing I want is a rebound. But this guy has been persistent, to say the least. Yesterday, he suggested bringing over some take out and then just hanging out for a bit...an early night because it's the middle of the work week. He was fully aware that I have a child, he'd even met her.

So he shows up at 6pm with Chinese food...I was getting the baby settled in her highchair and picking out some noodles and chicken for her and he says, "Oh. She's going to eat with us?" He pretty much ignored anything she said and talked over her. Finally, she looked at him and said, "My turn now. You wait." He was not amused. I'd told him in advance that I'd need to get her settled for the night before we could hang out...the bedtime ritual took about 20 minutes, and he was obviously put out. It was a nice night, so we went to sit out on the front porch...he commented on the baby monitor, "Do you drag that thing everywhere?"

So he was giving me the much-overused line about how attracted to me he is, how hot I am, BlahBlahBlah but my daughter woke up fussing,,,she's still teething...I got her and brought her out to the porch to rock for a bit...and he said that it seemed like I was busy so he should go. Trust me, I did not beg him to stay.

I guess someone who doesn't have a child or has no experience with kids just doesn't get it. My daughter is 18 months old and utterly dependent on me...and she absolutely comes first with me. She's a huge part of my life. We're a package deal. I mean, I have a life...I work, have friends, go out, go to the gym, do whatever...but if she needs me, everything and everyone else is secondary.

I have no idea if I'll ever find a guy who gets it. My husband really wanted a kid...until he got one. Actually, there was one guy who understood....but we had too many other issues. So IDK...sometimes I feel lonely...but she brings so much happiness into my life, it's totally worth whatever compromises I have to make..