Would You Date A Guy Who Has A Kid?

[Pyromancer]

[quote=NativeSon]Well, I suppose it would depend, but if you're looking for black and white, then HELL NO.

For various reasons. Obviously, the most glaring being: "if she needs me, everything and everyone else is secondary." Would you date a guy who has a kid(s)?

I prefer a partner in crime. Most of the things I enjoy, (late nights, travel, adventure in general) aren't exactly kid friendly let alone toddler friendly. I'm not looking to be an insta-daddy.

Would you care to explain why and how you became a parent?[/QUOTE]
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*Sigh*...okay...the short version is, my husband knocked up some bimbo. I suppose I should have left him then, but I've never said I was a genius. Anyway. She was going to put the baby up for adoption when it was born, and my husband freaked out, like "She's not giving MY kid away to strangers!" I took that to mean he felt a genuine connection with his child, but I realize now that it was about control and possession. We talked it over and I agreed that we'd take the baby, but the bimbo said she wasn't giving her kid to a couple of f-ing queers, Her tune changed VERY quickly when our lawyer started waving money under her nose. The one thing I did right was to insist that the legal agreement give my husband and I equal parental rights.

I was scared to death...until the nurse put this 3 day old infant into my arms...IDK, must have been a lot of oxytocin floating around the nursery that night, because it was love at first sight.

If you're wondering why he, as the biological parent, doesn't have custody it's because he acted like an abusive asshole...to us, to the people at child protective services and to the court. People have asked me if I mind being "saddled" with his kid...nope, I feel like I've been given an amazing gift...she's MY child in every sense of the word, and I'm grateful for it.