Kink in relationships

[CellarDweller]

Not quite sure what you are asking. Are you asking if you should tell Mr. Vanilla about your kinks? Are you asking if you should find a 3rd party to play with since you're in an open relationship?

I can only speak from my own experience, and since I've been open about it on this forum, I don't mind talking about my own kink.

It's really no secret on this board that I really enjoy tickling my boyfriend. I've come to the realization that when I am in a relationship, my boyfriend needs to know, and be willing to take part in it.

In one of my relationships I was with a guy who wasn't necessarily turned on by being tickled, but was willing to submit because he know I enjoyed it, and much to my joy, he was very ticklish. Tickling him made me feel closer to him.

I think that you should find out if he is open to your kink. If he's not, you may need to think about the relationship, and how strong a kink this is for you. If he's truly not into it, and you opt for a 3rd party, there is the possibility you develop feelings for that person.

Or, Mr. Vanilla may not be as vanilla as you think, and you could have a lot of fun times.