Age-gap dating... is 18 and 21 too much?

[InbetweenDreams]

@Altruistic_Garage926 So you're about 3 years older than he is. If you think waiting a few months will make you feel better that's fine. The thing is that although you're almost 21 you're both going to be about the same level of maturity compared to someone who's 18. The age gap isn't that big and the difference of 3 years will quickly become irrelevant as you both get older.

That being said there is a stigma about older guys dating younger girls. I know I'm talking about heteros here but follow me. Say some guy like me who's in their 30's were to date a girl who is say 19 or maybe 21. The parents are usually not a big fan of the older guy. However, it isn't that uncommon for there being 10+ year between partners, afterall my grandparents had 10 years between them. I don't know where the stigma came from, but certain dating apps have "closed the gap" only allowing people to look at a certain age range. For instance one app I can't look at anyone under 24. you might be asking why do you want to talk to people younger than 24? That sounds a little creepy, right? When did society decide on what age gap is appropriate? I think these are good questions.


At any rate, given the age gap of 3 years, it being legal that you being 20 and he 17 currently, I see no reason to not continue... I say go for it. I will admit that when I was 20, first coming out of the closet and mind you this was before 2015, I was pretty scared to find out that a guy I met was 17 (he lied about his age) and it was perfectly legal at the time. There's other threads that go into ageism, not sure the the discussion really got to the heart of the matter, at least not that I recall.