Annoyance...

[InbetweenDreams]

Resentment is one of the things I do worry about. @calgor He has managed to save up some money from working there, he does live with his parents. I don't think it is so much that he's going to look for someone else to support his habit of buying cars as much as I am worried that life will hit him really hard and fast. He did have something happen to him from a dental procedure that for unknown reasons he started having panic attacks and a lot of anxiety, he's gotten much better over the years but I think that and not having a job through college has kind of slowed his progress down. I also suspect that his hesitancy for getting another job is because this is also his first job and he's told me enough for me know he does work in a crummy place and needs to move on. I think he is scared to. I am willing to help but I am not spoon feeding anyone anymore. If he wants to find a job, he's got to do some of the work like sign into Indeed and look and not just bitch about his job and say "I know" when I suggest that he should look for another place to work, especially when even in this small town Taco Bell is offering $14 an hour with a $300 sign on bonus. I'm not suggesting that what he does but only to point out that this is a really good time to make a move because sooner or later that shit will dry up and not only might he be stuck at a crappy job they might cut his hours, lay him off when times get tuff of when winter hits. The kind of people he works for are ones who say they're broke but go around posting pictures of their brand new Lexus. Now, I get that business owners are entitled to having their own paycheck but $10/hr? Cleaning up dog diarrhea because no one else will clean it up? I know he deserves better than that shit and that's part of why it erks me.

The unfortunate reality is that I cannot replace his parents. His parents are nice people but they're way too easy on him. I know I've got to get my shit together too, it's not like it's a one sided thing. I got myself into a mess of my own and perhaps it is seeing someone make the same mistakes that I did that got me into trouble.

The car thing would bother me less if he were at least thoroughly checking them out and had more knowledge about what to look for. Transmission fluid that is dark and gray is bad bad bad and should walk away from it. I get the nostalgia, I'd love to have one of those cars or one like my grandparents had but I know I can't fix cars, not to that level. It would be less of an issue if he knew how to work on them and not give some dude $150 to fix the brakes and then run off with they money (that did apparently happen)...