Annoyance...

[ChadCoxRox]

@ChadCoxRox I guess I'm alluding to the fact that this is almost for sure not going to work out with him. I want to have faith that he'll get it together but I think I'm kidding myself and maybe he will but that might be 5 years...15 years who knows. I think it is ok to give someone a reasonable amount of time to do things but I think he's got some growing up to do and I hate it for him because he's 30 and frankly it only gets harder the older you are. I just really hate hurting people and perhaps this is my fault for allowing it to progress to the point that it has. I don't know how to deal with that and how you can tell early on that shit just isn't going to work.

I guess in posting this stuff to the forums it is really just me trying to work it through and perhaps a sanity check.

Yes. You think. And, you do know. And I love that you take the time to sort your thoughts here. It's safe and supportive and lord knows there's a few trolls to stir the shiz (but hope not). Listen you keep seeming to try taking responsibility in the process when he's the one with all the shiz content (seeming). So my vote is to reframe the relationship as a friendship and let it go. This puts it in his court to react or respond. He sounds a little needy and in need of a hero. And you sir are a willing hero. If he grows, I hope it won't be too late for a good catch.