Husbands and their porn habits?

[Anonymous]

Masturbation is healthy if engaged with some understanding of the multiple health benefits. Here's a video to start things off.
This guy is entertaining, funny and very informative on youtube Eurochannel.

Next, a very strong tool for improving your relationship and even clearing up some (or much) of the insecurity and pain you describe will be working on better communication. A person's fetish "obsessing" for titillation and masturbation may be quite powerful and yet coexist with choices made in reality. So the fact that I love to fantasize about bottoming for bears in my own private time is not a matter of contention with my boyfriend's understanding and acceptance of my being a total top in our relationship. I've never bottomed and don't plan to, but it is a real turn on in fantasy for me. The reason this is not an issue is because we've communicated openly about it enough to actually respect and appreciate each other's eccentricities and even privacy. This communication has also led us to explore and experiment with each other for a better sex life.

I sense all sorts of room for growth and happiness in your situation. I hope you'll find your way together!

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. It does help to hear from a non subjective viewpoint. For me I struggle to understand sometimes, generally speaking I like to recreate or act upon scenarios I watch in porn be that uniforms, use of toys or even role play, all within the realms of what my spouse consents to of course. I find it hard to grasp the concept of having a fantasy you have no desire to fulfil, but I acknowledge it is very much a thing. I am trying to open the topic up with my husband and asked to watch some of the things he enjoys together one time. Which has yet to happen. Nevertheless, I will keep trying my best to grasp it all and may try to breach the topic differently in the future.