Is this right?

[spotysocks]

Thank you for a good reply!
I have not to date had sex with another man,even as i write this i have doubts about myself being able to advertise myself or even look for a gay guy,other than here on the net.
What i wanted to find out for myself was to be around a man who as to say " been around men longer than me" so that i feel no threats,almost an elder type figure.
I suppose this goes back to when i was 16 and first had sex with a woman who was 30 at that time,she knew what was what and slowly brought me to a point to want to fuck her brains out!
So i feel the same now as i did them,i suppose i enjoyed it then and want the same now!

Ok , now makes more sense.
You are not 16 anymore you are a grown up. To be frank the daddy thing in my opinion hides insecurities, from your part. The age now matters less. What you looking for is irrelevant of age and since you are inexperienced someone in his 20's 30's 40's who's been around would know what he is doing in bed with a man more than you do now.
Leave any insecurities you have and focus in finding a good man who can understand your situation and give you the experience and discretion you need.

Hell can only be here on earth,after life ,we don't know about!so why risk it? Be a good guy on earth and find out nothing is waiting for you on the other side other than a few space rocks beating you about as you float in the space, the only thing on your mind then would be this" i wish i enjoyed myself while on earth" mile:

So you agree with Serfdom's point.

Since your family is not in the UK you have more space to try things out and see how it works out. I d say be honest with your wife but it can be risky; its your marriage , your family and you know the dynamics involved better.