Being a gay couple with children

[colinmackay]

Why not adoption?

That is a consideration. I know my boyfriend favours the adoption route.

A life with children can be really demanding and I personally think that it is not worth it to give up your freedom just to be proud of your kid. I mean, that's how I see it. Because I can see how my parents don't hve time for themselves AT ALL because of me and my lil sis. Especiallly my lil sis. . And I don't think that it's worth it.

That's an awfully negative view. Like I said before, I'm just trying to sort out in my head whether my desire for children is a real desire or an emotional hangover from past pressure.

I think that if I decided it was a genuine desire, then you work around all else.

However, if you still ever decide to have kids, I think the best choice would be to adopt a kid that is around 7 or 8.

That used to be the case with gay couples. Until equality legislation here gave gay couples an equal right to adoption the agencies that did permit adoptions to gays would try and palm off the more difficult to place children, such as the older ones, boys, and those with other difficulties.