10-13-2010, 04:29 AM
You need to get out there! We have a great age difference, but I am going though a lot of stuff like this too. Fear is very crippling - I don't think you should be ashamed of your job at all! I know that I wouldn't care if my boyfriend was a shit shoveler or a lawyer.
Onto the fear thing. Like I said, it's very crippling. But for some reason, us as humans are messed up and would rather hold onto things that only cause us pain then be strong and get over them. It's hard to be strong, and it's easy to be weak. I am currently placed directly in the weak column myself. Being strong means being truly lonely - or at least being ok with it. It's something that I struggle with daily - it's my biggest flaw as a person, thinking that I am somehow not good enough. You can tell yourself that you deserve love but if your heart doesn't believe it, it doesn't do much good. Have you ever tried affirmations?
Hope I helped!
Onto the fear thing. Like I said, it's very crippling. But for some reason, us as humans are messed up and would rather hold onto things that only cause us pain then be strong and get over them. It's hard to be strong, and it's easy to be weak. I am currently placed directly in the weak column myself. Being strong means being truly lonely - or at least being ok with it. It's something that I struggle with daily - it's my biggest flaw as a person, thinking that I am somehow not good enough. You can tell yourself that you deserve love but if your heart doesn't believe it, it doesn't do much good. Have you ever tried affirmations?
Hope I helped!
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